Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Happy Thanksgiving

November 24, 2014

Happy Thanksgiving!

I'm grateful for... you :)

And the wonderful week I had.

We found two new investigators! One is a referral that we received months ago who didn't seem interested at first, but then we prayed with him, and then he admitted he actually was. He's been reading the Book of Mormon. In the lightest sense of the word, he's investigating.

The other comes from a pretty neat story. So several weeks ago Sister Magleby and I met with the guy in charge of keeping the church records up to date. We just wanted to better coordinate our handwritten notes with what he knew. One of the things we found was that a less active our notes said had moved, had not actually. There must have been some miscommunication. Well, one night at planning, we decided to just put him down to visit the next day. Next day comes, it's been a good, productive morning. It's 15 minutes before we scheduled lunch, it takes 5 to get home, both Sister Davidson and I have to use the bathroom, we really could just go home and start lunch early. But we have this one last family on our list. So we decide to just quickly stop by. Almost an hour later, we have a new investigator (his wife), we were able to answer a lot of the questions he's had for years, and we still have to use the bathroom. Thinking back on it, I was like "where was the prompting?!" These people were so ready. She has defended the church before, he's been thinking about coming back to church, and that morning they had had a religious discussion. And then we came knocking. So where was the prompting? The only one I could think of was the little one that said "maybe you shouldn't give up early, because you did have one more thing planned for this hour." But I guess that's how this thing works most of the time. You just go about doing the best you can, doing the things you know you're supposed to do, and God makes up the rest. I'm just glad I didn't let my bladder defeat my guilty conscious.

We were able to meet with a lot of investigators this week. That was fun :)

We got to help the Mousely Museum set up for Christmas. I thought they would give us some instruction. Instead we showed up, there were some bins of decorations, and they said have at it. So once we got the situation under control, it was pretty fun. I was pretty proud of the little Christmas tree display I arranged on top of a phonograph.

ADD once again defeated our weekly planning.

We had zone conference! It was really good; all about conversion. An important topic for not only those we are teaching, but for ourselves. I also got to give my departing testimony. I can remember watching Sister Pharis get up and bare hers. It seemed like I would never get to that point. And then there was the whole, "what in the world will I say?" Well, turns out you just stand up, bare your testimony, and sit down. And that was that.

The Palmers had an early family Thanksgiving dinner on Sunday and invited us. I have a feeling my Thanksgiving dinner(s) this week will be a bit more elaborate than last's.

A lot more happened, as it does each week. But I think I'll keep it to that. As I was writing this my flight information came in. That was a trippy moment. I know my time is limited, but a part of me just feels like this goes on forever, that it doesn't end. And, in a way, it doesn't. Every member a missionary, right?

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday! Love ya!
Sister Tanner

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Transfer week and A Mormon in the Donbass Militia

November 17, 2014

Transfer week = brain mush week.

So I was mistaken about my companion. It's a different person, and she actually goes home one transfer after me. So she still won't be here long. But that's long enough to maybe not need elders!

Her name is Sister Davidson, and she has spent her entire mission up to this point in the desert. She is freezing here in Yucaipa. It actually has become a bit chilly. One night I even pulled out a pair of tights. Anyway, Sister Davidson also grew up in Texas, but her senior year of high school moved to Nigeria (dad works for Exxon). It's funny, because people here will be like "where are you from?" and all she will say is Texas, and I just look at her inwardly shaking my head.

Not much exciting happened this week besides transfers. Trying to pack up, say goodbye to people, than unpack, say hello to people. Missionaries need companions, because trying to do everything with one brain just doesn't work. For example, at Ward Council I realized we forgot the phone at home, and had to rush home to make it back just in time for church to start. Woops.  Hopefully I'll stabilize here soon.

I got to paint this week! I've been waiting my whole mission to paint. And then I got to wear a full on painting body suit. People here for some reason don't think we have grungy service clothes. But it was way fun and actually turned out pretty well. And then they took us up to Oak Glen to the new Angus McCurdy's, a really good burger place I keep hearing about and keep meaning to go to. And then they came to church on Sunday. Good times.

Sister Davidson has ADD and I'm not the best at focusing either, so Weekly Planning was....long.

Saturday we got to clean a grandfather clock for service, and when we finished the person we were helping was like "okay, now let's make cookies!" We both didn't know what to do, because we thought we should probably get going, but this person wasn't a member, so we ended up helping her start her holiday cookie making. We finally managed to leave, but she had us come back later and pick some up. And then she gave us homemade egg nog. I don't normally like egg nog but this was good. But there was also a Christmas movie playing, and as soon as I finished my egg nog I had to turn to Sister Davidson and be like "we need to leave NOW." I am seriously fighting Christmas trunkiness, and I'm not really sure who's winning.

I wish I had more for you, but like I said, my brain has been mush and this week was really weird.

Love ya!
Sister Tanner

Below is an article that was published in the Russian Times. Diana says that Sergey was a member of the Petrovsky branch, or congregation, that she served in from October to December of 2013.

A Mormon in the Donbass militia: ‘A volunteer’s motivation beats that of a draftee’

Nadezhda Kevorkova is a war correspondent who has covered the events of the Arab Spring, military and religious conflicts around the world, and the anti-globalization movement.
Published time: November 09, 2014 19:32

Photo by Nadezhda Kevorkova

Sergey’s call sign is “Snow.” He was born in the Donbass. He’s a businessman, a Mormon and he’s happily married. He has been in the army for five months without getting any money.
He is one of the few soldiers who don’t hesitate to say their names and give their pictures. He is 40. He has been fighting since May 21. He participated in the bloodiest battle near Semyonovka, which is not far from Slavyansk. He was one of the first soldiers to receive a medal. He had a military unit under his command. On June 21, he was wounded in the leg. Now he is back on duty.
“I’m a Mormon, a sectarian, as they call us here, but I’m willing to shed my blood for the Donbass,”Sergey says. Sergey, his wife and their three kids are Mormons.
“Before I became a Mormon, I was an atheist. In the 1990s people didn’t feel so negative about things that come from America. We used to baptize whole families every week,” he says.
At that time the closest Mormon temple was in East Germany. There are no Mormon temples in Russia.
“We used to go to Germany twice a year to study and to pray,” Sergey says.
Later they built a temple in Kiev, but now he cannot take his family there, because they may arrest him for being a militiaman and a commander.
“We have only 150 temples around the world, but we also build meeting houses. Before the war there were three meeting houses in Donetsk, one in Makeyevka and one in Gorlovka. There are around 100 Mormons in each parish in the Donbass region. We don’t drink, don’t smoke and have strong marriages. Eighty percent of our church members are for the Donetsk Republic, and twenty percent are against it.”According to Sergey, that’s the situation among all Ukrainians.
“Three of our church members are also in the militia,” Sergey says. He says he believes that not many denominations can boast of such a high mobilization level.
“Our members gathered humanitarian aid and took it to Semyonovka under fire through Ukrainian checkpoints.”
Before the war he had a small metal goods business, but in the spring his business collapsed.

He hasn’t received any salary as a militiaman so far. He was fighting, then he was wounded and now he works at the command headquarters.
“We have a rule – you don’t get any pay for your first month of service. But, as for me, something always happens during the first month. It’s been over a month since I’ve left the hospital, but I haven’t received any money so far,” Sergey says. He has been serving in the army for five months now.
Like many others in the Donbass, he sent his family and his parents to the Crimea. They had some savings, but they ran out. He didn’t get any compensation for his injury. He gets help from his family – his parents receive pension payments and his wife found a temporary job.
After his injury he was assigned as personnel officer.
“I keep asking to send me to my unit, but they won’t let me. Our commander thinks I’m valuable,” Sergey says.
He doesn’t understand why people treat him and his fellow believers nicely, but are still suspicious toward Mormons in general.
“They took our four buildings and gave them to the militia. We were treated as if we were American spies. At first, I would go to the authorities and show them my injured leg, and they would back down. But now it doesn’t work any longer. But our members didn’t get hateful. Our women suggested that our buildings be turned into hospitals, so they could take care of the soldiers there. But we don’t know what will happen eventually.” Sergey hopes that his fellow believers understand why some people don’t like Mormons.
“You cannot talk to each one and explain that our relations with the Kiev Mormons hardened after the first revolution in 2004. As far as I know, none of them went to war,” Sergey says.
He remembered that a winner of a Biathlon European Championship came to support the Donetsk Republic. “He is also a Mormon!” he says.

Sergey says that the Salt Lake City Central Mission doesn’t interfere in their followers’ political life. The president of their mission, an American, left when the situation began to heat up. Currently Mormons meet on Sundays in their homes. Out of 100 Mormons, only 30 still remain in the city.
Sergey says that not only Mormons are in a difficult situation; the prayer house of the Pentecostal group ‘Word of Life’ has also been taken by the militia forces, though some of their members also volunteered to fight. In Slavyansk, a pastor was killed.
“I know a guy named ‘Gross’ from the Vostok battalion.” Sergey tries to call him, but the telephone connection with those at the front line is bad.
He hopes that sooner or later the attitude toward Mormons will change, not just because he is a member of the self-defense forces. “Our leaders send millions of dollars to help the Donbass. People know about it.”
Sergey thinks that there are no unbelievers on the battlefield, as for differences in their beliefs, they don’t matter much for soldiers.
“After three days, everybody puts on crosses, icons or amulets. I shall never forget my first night in the trenches, how I was praying there. You can find all kinds of religions here at the front, even Rodnovery (Slavic native faith groups – RT)". Sergey recalls his first day at the front: “It seemed like a time machine had taken me back to 1942. Here I am, sitting in the trenches with my rifle against tanks.”
He still wonders how the militia forces managed to stand against much stronger government forces.“Near Semyonovka, there were 300 to 400 of the militiamen fighting with machine guns against 120 units of Ukrainian armored vehicles.”
He thinks that at the front line believers understand each other better than in ordinary life.
“One day I lectured the soldiers against swearing, together with an Orthodox priest. We have no icons or crosses, but I feel bad when they start swearing in front of their relics. Since then we’ve agreed not to swear in the trenches. Father Anatoly thanked me for the lecture and gave me an icon.”

It’s too bad not all the soldiers have a chance to listen to such lectures. Many of them swear because they feel it’s a sign of the macho world. Sometimes you see a soldier wearing crosses, but he swears like a sailor.
When you talk with someone who has been at war, the talk inevitably touches on other conflict zones.
“I am pro-Palestinian. I’ve been to Israel, and I wasn’t impressed at all – all the sanctuaries are commercialized, and their politics is just wrong,” says Sergey.
For him, fighting for Donbass is the right cause. He points out that such a great number of people willing to die for it is all the proof he needs.
Almost all of his fellow combatants have been wounded. On June 3, nine got killed in the most fierce fight they’ve been in so far.
“We were up against 240-mm mortars, howitzers, tanks, and Grad rocket launchers. And all we had was these nine guys from the antitank detachment with the 1944 issue guns. Their number 3, a Rodnover guy, went to fetch the ammo, and by the time he got back all of them were dead. He used up all the ammo he brought and hit a tank,” Sergey said.
He does not agree with the principle some trying to apply – that it’s Ukraine vs. Russia or Ukrainians vs. Russians.
He recalls volunteers from Kiev who came to join the Donetsk militia:
“There was one guy, his call sign was ‘Mole.’ He also took out a tank. He was always very neat, even in battle he was tidy. My commanding officer Cedar is also from Kiev, he is now back after a time in hospital, he was badly wounded.”
Wartime storytelling generates all sorts of fantastic stories. For example, Sergey says, there was a 16-year-old from Kiev, with the call sign “Vandal.” They say when he was 14 he witnessed some Kiev protesters throw down a Russian flag and stomp on it – and he snatched it from under them to protect it. And they say Putin sent this youth a watch as a thank you.
He continues, “Our medic is a true hero. He retrieved so many wounded under fire. He used to say, “It’s my Orthodox Christian Jihad.”
Sergey grew up with the values which were typical for Soviet youths – believing that being a soldier is honorable and that his homeland will never have to suffer from another war. Both his parents were deployed with the Red Army contingent to Hungary. His mother was a teacher of English, and father a communications officer, taught technical discipline to the soldiers. When the family returned to Donetsk, both parents went on to teach at a military school. So for Sergey to want to become an officer was a natural choice. In 1991, he enrolled in the Donetsk military school, but as the Soviet Union dissolved the same year, Sergey decided to quit.

“I did pass all the qualification exams, honestly! I was in the last class at the school, prior to dissolution. I didn’t serve in the army either. And yet you see, I ended up fighting in a war anyway,” says Sergey.
He says that more than half of the militiamen here haven’t even served in the army.
“In action, you learn very quickly,” he says. “The Donetsk militia has had a total of 16,000 volunteers – and that’s against the 30,000 Ukrainian troops. But you see, a volunteer’s motivation beats that of a draftee. In my unit, I had two fathers with their sons join us. And a family of a husband and wife.”
According to his data, and since he works with the staff he does know what he’s talking about, 70 percent of the militiamen are natives of Donbass, 20 percent are from the rest of Ukraine including its western regions, and 10 percent are volunteers from Russia.
“On the average, those volunteers from Russia who have had an experience of army service are much better prepared than the rest. We also had some outstanding fighters. For example ‘Motorola,’ the commander of my battalion, is a natural-born military leader. He is only 5 feet tall, skinny, but his leadership qualities and his tactical mind are unbelievable, that’s something you can’t just learn in a military school.”
“Motorola” was the first to think of posting video reports on the Internet so that people could put a face to the militias.
Among these video reports was one called, “A Mormon in the militia.”
“It began as a joke,” says Sergey. “It wasn’t for publicity. I’ve never been to the USA. I fight for Donbass because this is my home.”
The statements, views and opinions expressed in this column are solely those of the author and do not necessarily represent those of RT.
                            

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

I know you want another chicken story

November 10, 2014

Well, another transfer ended and I am now into my last transfer. We just found out transfer news, and Sister Magleby is leaving me. Sad. My new companion, if it is the person I think it is, will be going home at the same time as me. So we'll be whitewashing out. No pressure. I just feel bad for the ward. I also think that Elders will probably replace us, because the big rush of sisters is gone and now we are mostly receiving elders. I definitely served during a unique time.

The beginning of this week seemed really productive. Things just seemed to work out. Could I tell you now what happened? Not really.

Can you believe it's already November 10th? This month is flying by.

We had FHE with the D family! Reinforcing the basics. We also played Monopoly. It worked out perfect, because I was doing really well and then in two moves I was bankrupt and gone...right when it was time for us to leave. So I wasn't even upset.

I got to be a princess this week. The Activity Day girls performed their song as I played the piano. Their performance went way better than all their rehearsals, just as it should be. And I got a princess crown.

C got moved to an assisted living place. I'm telling you - those things are nice. And at 94 he's still doing great, with no walker, no cane, no nothing. He even remembered our appointment. We did have to explain that Joseph Smith was not Jesus Christ though. Minor detail.

I ate five enchiladas one night. I was given a big huge plate of four delicious enchiladas. And then I was handed another plate with just one enchilada. I could feel my belt getting tighter. Might I just add that the man of the house only ate three. Oh was I full.

I also ate sushi with millionaires. Things I never thought I would do in my life.

A new family almost came to church. But they woke up sick. Next week.

It was too bad for them because it was the Primary Program! They did a wonderful job. And the next door neighbors of the Fry family came, and their little 3 year old daughter went up on stage when her 3 year old friend sang, and then she didn't want to leave the stage and they almost gave her a speaking part but she wouldn't say anything, just breathed into the microphone, so when they tried to take her off she started screaming. So they were just like any other family in the ward. :) 

Last story: Saturday night Sister Magleby and I come home for dinner to find a chicken laying in the grass. It's laying all funky and we think it's dead. It was the prettiest chicken so I was pretty bummed. But then Roxy (the predator fiend) sniffs it and it moves. Of course the Palmers are gone, so we get permission to put the dogs to bed early, and then it's chicken time. Turns out it wasn't roughed up too bad. But it did get to spend dinner time in a box in our kitchen while we assessed the situation. It just so happened that I had planned on eating chicken shaped like dinosaurs that night, so then some funny if not slightly morbid photo ops occurred. The chicken is now safely back with the others.

So that's this week. Just gearing up for the holidays. Unfortunately, Sister Magleby is taking most of our holiday decorations with her. It just makes the transfer a little bit harder. She thinks I only love her because of her holiday decorations. (Not true).

Love ya!
Sister Tanner

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Five year old investigator



November 3, 2014

One quick addendum to last week's letter:
When the Palmers came home and we told them about the chicken, Brother Palmer was like "well let's just shoot it."
Awkward silence.
Then Sister Palmer: "after they put in all that hard work?"
Wish we had known that earlier.
Regardless the chicken lives, as happy and stupid as ever.

This week we got a new investigator! He is five years old. So I guess not technically an investigator. Darn.

Actually, funny story about that one: We were at the park making phone calls and this guy walks up and says, pointing to a bag hanging in a tree, "Did you notice this here?" We say no. He says "You'll never believe this." And I think he's about to reveal a drug drop or something for other people. Instead he pulls out a beer. I guess he hung a bag full of beer in a tree for himself. Then he starts telling us that we need to rethink our religion and study more about "Joe Smith." But then he told us if it made us better people, "more power to you." Conflictions. Anyway, at about this time we notice a young mother at another table across the way. She has a very young baby who is beginning to walk, so we strike up a conversation. Then she tells us that her five year old son is beginning to ask questions about God, and what happens to the soul when we die, and what if we do bad, etc. She didn't feel like she knew enough to answer, as she is not very religious herself. So we told her about Primary, and we also said we could come over to answer any questions. She agreed, and we set up to come over the next day. The next day we pull up and we're like...seriously? Turns out, we've been referred to this house before by their neighbors, who are members. Last time we knocked the dad answered and was like "JWs?" nope. "Mormons?" Yep. And then he was nice but kind of made fun of us at the same time and said no thank you. So we knock and the dad answers and is like "Mormons?" Yep. Then he tells his wife "Did you make an appointment with the Mormons?" And she's all "Yep! For (the son)"  So we have a REALLY quick and simple lesson with the son. Because he's five. And he showed us many of his toys. But he said he wanted to learn more. So we have a 5 year old investigator.

Wednesday was Sister Magleby's birthday! She's no longer a teenager. For her birthday we delivered caramel popcorn to some less active people and investigators. She also got Thai food, thanks to the Palmers, for lunch. And we had our lesson with the 5 year old. And she got lots of presents from her family and ward members. Spoiled. We are all spoiled here. Oh yes, and we had a birthday dinner at the Fry's. They invited their friends next door, who are now our friends too. Perfect present for a missionary.

Thursday we had our long awaited interviews with President Van Cott. Mine was rather short, because, as he said, I'll be having my departing one in about 3 or 4 weeks and he said I could have as much time as I wanted then. Crazy town. Right after, we weekly planned some with Sister Van Cott. She told us she wanted to come plan with us sometime, so we invited her this week. Weekly Planning with her is the best because she brings homemade Peanut Butter and Pomegranate jelly sandwiches. We also had two lessons with investigators that night, which just rounded out a perfectly wonderful Thursday.


Friday was Halloween! It was also chilly. Plus it rained that night! Right during the trunk or treat. But it didn't ruin it at all. The trunk or treat was great. People kept asking us "what are you going to be?!" And we would tell them "missionaries!" Let me tell you, our costumes were pretty authentic looking. I did wear my MTC tag, so everything except "Tanner" was in Russian. And my contacts were bugging me so I wore my glasses. But the activity was pretty superb, plus we had a great conversation with this less active couple we've been trying to see, and they ended up giving us a ride home. Perfect.

Re-winding to Wednesday for a second. We were driving to this one lady, and we passed the Mousley Museum. It is a museum of Yucaipa history and I've always wanted to go in but it's closed on Mondays. Well, as we drive by I see it's open and half joking suggest we go in and see if we can volunteer. Sister Magleby's like "let's do it!" So then it becomes a reality. We go in, and no one is there except older people (volunteers). They readily accept our offer to help, plus we can just come and go when we please during the open hours. First the house on the hill, now the Mousley museum. Dreams really do come true. So Saturday we go for our first morning of volunteering. It was great because it started pouring that day. We are put in the back room and asked to organize some files. For what turns into the next two hours, I am sorting through newspaper clippings of mostly automobile accidents, and airplane crashes. Poor Sister Magleby got stuck with the file labeled "Susan Anton." Apparently she is a native Yucaipian. Small town pageant queen gone BIG. Tabloid clipping after tabloid clipping Sister Magleby had to sort through. I now know a little more about the history of Yucaipa; Sister Magleby knows entirely too much about the history of Susan Anton. But get this: Susan Anton has a brother named Greg. We have a Greg Anton listed as a (less active) member. We had actually planned to try and visit him that day, but he lives in Oak Glen and we deemed it unsafe to go up there because of the rain. One day though.

So yeah, the rain messed up our plans for the day, but we are certainly grateful for it. Plus it all worked out.

Plus it made Saturday and Sunday COLD. Maybe I've become a southern California wimp, but it felt like early winter. Boots were not overkill. And the Christmas music which we started officially playing November 1st did not seem out of place.

Sunday was productive. Nothing much to share beyond that. Except that our phone got left at our last appointment for the night and by the time it was discovered it was too late to get it. Luckily we have Brother Palmer looking out for us and we got to use his phone to call the District Leader and report our numbers. Except they didn't pick up and so we left a message, but then they must not have checked their messages because when we got our phone back they had called us five times.

So that was the week! Happy November everyone. Hope you are doing well :)

Love,
Sister Tanner